Isn't it ironic that the loveliest, most giving people are the ones who suffer the most and worst loss. I think Alanis needs to live a bit more to be able to comment on actual ironic situations.

Eg I never thought about having kids until my choice and ability were severely hampered.

I think you two are doing fine thanks to your strength and the fact you've been open about it. People don't realise how important those traits are until they need them personally.

Isn't it ironic? ;)