Actually, there's a point - I've heard several female fans make negative comments about slender women in fandom that were overtly sexual (none about you to date) - I've almost never heard comments about larger girls who act in the same way.

It's nice to be supportive, but it has to be balanced. Maybe something like "I still think you're hot, but if you're unhappy, what can we do about it?" Saying you're still attractive, but offering support to change what you're unhappy about.

Was it you I shocked at a con with my bags of dried fruit?