I remember that well. At first I was just furious at the people who would just believe such a thing of you. I couldn't believe that they had not asked you (or asked me!!). I felt hurt that we then seemed to lose friends and not get invited to things but figured that if they were going to believe such things and change their attitude to us without checking out the truth of things then I probably didn't want their company anyway.
Because you weren't abusive and I didn't need a support network I missed the implications for quite some time. I don't remember why I put all the pieces together but I still remember my shock when I did. "They think that Danny is the sort of person who would abuse me. They have withdrawn from contact with me. Therefore, if he was abusing me, they have withdrawn their support from me." Luckily I didn't need a support network, but if I had, they had just cut down my available options. Strangely, I decided that I now wanted their company even less than when I was just furious at them for believing slander without ever checking it out.
So called "moral" people
I remember that well. At first I was just furious at the people who would just believe such a thing of you. I couldn't believe that they had not asked you (or asked me!!). I felt hurt that we then seemed to lose friends and not get invited to things but figured that if they were going to believe such things and change their attitude to us without checking out the truth of things then I probably didn't want their company anyway.
Because you weren't abusive and I didn't need a support network I missed the implications for quite some time. I don't remember why I put all the pieces together but I still remember my shock when I did. "They think that Danny is the sort of person who would abuse me. They have withdrawn from contact with me. Therefore, if he was abusing me, they have withdrawn their support from me." Luckily I didn't need a support network, but if I had, they had just cut down my available options. Strangely, I decided that I now wanted their company even less than when I was just furious at them for believing slander without ever checking it out.
Ghods protect me from "moral" people.