I can really empathise with your first part of this post on not making a move; i've been in similar situations where girls have basically made themselves available for intamicy (can't spell that) and i've dismissed it as something that wasn't relevant to me. I recall one of my best friends patiently explaining to me that my now wife (Hello Gemma) was definitely interested in me and I could either ignore it and loose out or call her back and invite her over. I did explain this to her; so now she makes no bones about what she wants so there can be no confusion. Problem is I still battle to see signals for what they are; and there are plenty of girls i'd like to get closer to; but it has been my own limitations stopping me. I'm getting better at this as time goes on however; and i'm getting better at not just palming these things off out of hand. Re the "it is not my problem" complex; i'm with you there as well. I possibly don't care as much as you do; because if I did i'd have no energy left a lot of the time. As you would well know; having a disability does limit what you can practically do. that doesn't mean I sit at home and do nothing; but I help out where I can. People who moved my stuff were given a gift or some money, even if they did not expect it. drhoz got a dvd burner; which I hope he is putting to good use. I agree, things have to be more of everyone's problem.