I recently read a discouraging account of well-meaning anti-racist workshops which were hamstrung when the women involved attacked each other instead of engaging in dialogue. This was true both for the white women's group and the women of colour's group. These are complex, difficult, painful, personal issues, so it's not surprising there's going to be anger and confusion, but what a waste when the discussions are wrecked by suspicion, judgementalism, and malice.