One of the things that has bothered me about the recent Swancon thing is people talking about how they don't understand how you could be friends with someone who has done something so dreadful, how their friends will get demonised too, how the guy is better watch out.

I often find great irony in the fact that the people that say things like this (especially in the wider Swancon community) are friends with people who have done equally or greater horrible things. They just haven't been publicly "outed" about it yet. I've also seen people jumped up and down on for saying certain things along the lines of "how can you say that you don't know what it is like to be a victim". Yet, that person was a victim of horrible situations, they just don't vomit all of the internet about it.