After the big blow up (alas, caused by my other half who has a tendency to think first and think later), I had written a response apologising for what he'd said, only to find that I had also had the opportunity to speak on the matter taken from me. For a couple of days I was in a real tizz and seriously bothered by it all. But after talking to a few people who wanted to hear all sides of the story (yes, people may be wrong, but dammit, there needs to be a forum for the argument or things just stew and get even more ugly), and reading this post, I think I feel better than when all this mess started. Thank you.

As for the one bad thing tarnishing you for life - I've been seriously contemplating a short fanfic I wrote about the topic. Maybe I should.