I remember a party from many years ago with sjkasabi. She wasn't a drinker and went to the trouble of making sure there was non-alcoholoic punch. There was also alcoholic punch. Someone deliberately spiked the non-alcoholic. I know it was deliberate because they told me they had.

I remember SJKasabi being quite reasonably upset. I turned to the culpit and said "Satisfied?" Naturally, they didn't think it was a big deal.

That seems to be part of the attitude. Drinking's no big deal, so why won't you drink?!