I was thinking that I don't really understand the pushing drinks mindset... but then I thought about when we have guests to dinner (I'm not talking large gatherings where if I remember I'll offer people drinks when they arrive, but other than that assume that if we know them enough to welcome them, then they should feel comfortable enough to help themselves). I find it _very_ difficult if someone doesn't want tea or coffee (or chocolate, or water, or another wine, or a beer, or some other thing we have on offer—we have an _extensive_ range of teas, coffees etc). I often feel quite antsy about their lack of drink (of _any_ description).

I don't know if it's because that's the point where we usually relax in the lounge, and I feel that if they don't get a drink when I'm offering, they'll decide they want one when I sit down? Which is ridiculous, because it's often livelurker doing the actual getting of drinks—he's the coffee expert! And we rarely (never?) have people to dinner who I wouldn't assume would be able to get their own drinks—nor would I have a problem with them doing that...

Very odd... shall have to ponder on it more...