I have some friends who I used to love being with (best friend and her husband, in fact) - we used to go there three or four times a week. Role playing one night, card games another night, board games another night, and just hanging out the other. Drinking was something 'on the side' that didn't affect the games or conversation. So it didn't matter that I didn't drink, there was never any pressure. We usually hung out at their's because they had a small child. She's not so small anymore - 11 now.

But then they started using drugs (serious) and drinking more, and the games stopped, and eventually I couldn't stand it anymore because they stopped being who I knew and started being people who drank to excess and 'partied' way too hard and it physically hurt to see them doing that to themselves... so I stopped going.

Now I have written all that in a public forum I wonder if any of them will ever see it...