Bravely written, sir. More *hugs* from the west coast, and I'll try to be conscious of all that when next you're in the neighbourhood :)

Must admit, one of the things I really need to work on is steering between agreeing to things I cannot healthily manage, and hurting people by obstinately saying no without making my reasons clear. For me it's more about balancing my needs with the needs of others, with a touch of running out of spoons.