My son was born and passed away at 23 weeks gestation - 5 years ago this year in July and I still cry, and I still miss him, and I still remember exactly every tiny detail. Of the only times I got to see him really being himself were on ultrasound. I have his ashes as well, but have never found an urn to place them in so they remain as they were given to me in a plastic box.
I planted a lemon tree for my son. It was beautiful and it thrived and produced lemons from a very "early age" for such a tree.. The thing I love the most is that it produces fruit.. It has a great amount of worth and it has life growing from it... and that to me was very significant.
Danny, this is a most genuine offer - if you want someone to talk to please feel free to prod me. I am always around and I am happy for you to yell and scream at me if you want to express it in the heat of the moment... I can understand. My son was my first born, and I was told I was never going to have children - he was my miracle.
My most heartfelt condolences too... I am not going to tell you time will heal you.. It won't. It will take away your pain, but it will never take away your joy at being a father. You will always have that proud title and she will always be your little girl.
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Date: 2007-06-24 01:00 am (UTC)My son was born and passed away at 23 weeks gestation - 5 years ago this year in July and I still cry, and I still miss him, and I still remember exactly every tiny detail. Of the only times I got to see him really being himself were on ultrasound. I have his ashes as well, but have never found an urn to place them in so they remain as they were given to me in a plastic box.
I planted a lemon tree for my son. It was beautiful and it thrived and produced lemons from a very "early age" for such a tree.. The thing I love the most is that it produces fruit.. It has a great amount of worth and it has life growing from it... and that to me was very significant.
Danny, this is a most genuine offer - if you want someone to talk to please feel free to prod me. I am always around and I am happy for you to yell and scream at me if you want to express it in the heat of the moment... I can understand. My son was my first born, and I was told I was never going to have children - he was my miracle.
My most heartfelt condolences too... I am not going to tell you time will heal you.. It won't. It will take away your pain, but it will never take away your joy at being a father. You will always have that proud title and she will always be your little girl.
*crappy-heartfelt-online-hugs-of-a-most-genuine-would-give-them-to-you-if-I-saw-you-nature*