I don't think I'm under-estimating the difficulty, but I have under-stated it somewhat. Though, as I did say "If fitness and weight-loss were easy, most people would be lean and healthy."
I know speaking personally that while I was only slightly overweight (around 74 kilos) it took a reasonable amount of work to lose it, and I'm not a foodie. And when Tracy died, I suddenly lost 2 kilos, then put it and about 3 kilos more on over the next few weeks.
My main point was that as a part of our community, a person is more likely to find support and acceptance for being overweight than they are for a dieting and health routine. There are plenty of hurdles that need to be beaten with weight-loss, mental as well as physical, without fighting the constant background attitude of "there's nothing wrong with obesity."
Try telling various people that you've seriously broken your diet and make a note of the responses - how many only give sympathy, or say it doesn't matter, and how many actively encourage you to keep going, to start again immediately? That's one of the problems, people will try to make someone feel better for failing, without giving them a push to try again. So what reason is there to keep going if someone gets more 'positive' love and attention for failure?
The undermining is not purely a fandom thing, but it is very pronounced in fandom. As are shyness, a penchant for computers, and a lack of social etiquette.
You're on a diet, and seriously, good on you! You're actively trying to do something to change your situation. Success is important, but trying is just as important, as is not merely giving up when you strike a hurdle. Best of luck!
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Date: 2007-07-26 08:45 am (UTC)I know speaking personally that while I was only slightly overweight (around 74 kilos) it took a reasonable amount of work to lose it, and I'm not a foodie. And when Tracy died, I suddenly lost 2 kilos, then put it and about 3 kilos more on over the next few weeks.
My main point was that as a part of our community, a person is more likely to find support and acceptance for being overweight than they are for a dieting and health routine. There are plenty of hurdles that need to be beaten with weight-loss, mental as well as physical, without fighting the constant background attitude of "there's nothing wrong with obesity."
Try telling various people that you've seriously broken your diet and make a note of the responses - how many only give sympathy, or say it doesn't matter, and how many actively encourage you to keep going, to start again immediately? That's one of the problems, people will try to make someone feel better for failing, without giving them a push to try again. So what reason is there to keep going if someone gets more 'positive' love and attention for failure?
The undermining is not purely a fandom thing, but it is very pronounced in fandom. As are shyness, a penchant for computers, and a lack of social etiquette.
You're on a diet, and seriously, good on you! You're actively trying to do something to change your situation. Success is important, but trying is just as important, as is not merely giving up when you strike a hurdle. Best of luck!