health at any size And thank you for that, what a fabulous phrasing. And I do indeed know thin folks who aren't terribly fit, while my father, who was fairly fat, smoked like a chimney and drank like a fish, was.
One of the problems with things like 100 Days is it leads to plenty of passion in the writing, but not always the best wording or arguments, especially when I'm having to fight the weird spelling errors that creep in since the stroke. Given some of the topics I've written about, I'm surprised it's taken this long for people to get flabbergasted with me. But then generally speaking, while I've had strong opinions, they've been ideas that most of my friends agreed with or at least understood my reasoning.
It's different when you hit closer to home. For a start, people miss or ignore relevant comments, such as '...I'm talking in harsh generalisations...', or when I talk about the girls I find attractive that are naturally quite sizeable and round, and no-one denied the way some folks will push a person on a diet to 'just have one.'
I'm not aiming this at you, you've obviously read carefully enough to look at where my anger and frustration has come from. You've taken the time to think about your reply and post some good links, and I thank you for taking the time read my replies.
As for the sex thing - not kidding though I suspect people aren't completely on the same page with me either. I didn't say everyone who had weight on had unsatisfactory sex lives. But I know from personal experience and from friends that the bigger you get, the more likely it is to have a negative impact. For some folks they have to be huge before it really disrupts their sex lives, for others a little extra padding is enough to cause problems, even if it's just stamina.
I have friends whose stomachs hide their genitalia, who can only have sex on their backs with their legs scissored together. They enjoy their sex life, but it certainly has reduced varity - one position that works. And they regularly fail to find the relevant parts and give up.
I've had the personal experience of having to hold a roll of fat out of the way with one friend I was working on, it was the only way there was any hope of reaching her genitals with my other hand, and then I could only just manage. She enjoyed herself, but I was limited in what I could do for her because of the logistical issues. And it was incredibly hard and tiring.
I've had a partner who wasn't hugely overweight but her size meant that penetration was sometimes nowhere near as deep as either of us would have liked. We couldn't get that close. That impacts on what can be achieved. That there are other things that can be done and ways to work around it, of course there are, and we had a great sex life. But there's no denying our options were reduced by the issue.
Friends of both genders who find that having a big backside or a large gut means that things they want to do they can't manage well. People who find that their lack of fitness combined with their weight means that if they can manage a more interesting position than normal, they don't have the stamina or ability to try for more than a few seconds.
I didn't throw the sex comment in as a vague afterthought, I talk to a lot of people and have had my share of first hand experience.
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Date: 2007-07-29 10:55 am (UTC)health at any size
And thank you for that, what a fabulous phrasing. And I do indeed know thin folks who aren't terribly fit, while my father, who was fairly fat, smoked like a chimney and drank like a fish, was.
One of the problems with things like 100 Days is it leads to plenty of passion in the writing, but not always the best wording or arguments, especially when I'm having to fight the weird spelling errors that creep in since the stroke. Given some of the topics I've written about, I'm surprised it's taken this long for people to get flabbergasted with me. But then generally speaking, while I've had strong opinions, they've been ideas that most of my friends agreed with or at least understood my reasoning.
It's different when you hit closer to home. For a start, people miss or ignore relevant comments, such as '...I'm talking in harsh generalisations...', or when I talk about the girls I find attractive that are naturally quite sizeable and round, and no-one denied the way some folks will push a person on a diet to 'just have one.'
I'm not aiming this at you, you've obviously read carefully enough to look at where my anger and frustration has come from. You've taken the time to think about your reply and post some good links, and I thank you for taking the time read my replies.
As for the sex thing - not kidding though I suspect people aren't completely on the same page with me either. I didn't say everyone who had weight on had unsatisfactory sex lives. But I know from personal experience and from friends that the bigger you get, the more likely it is to have a negative impact. For some folks they have to be huge before it really disrupts their sex lives, for others a little extra padding is enough to cause problems, even if it's just stamina.
I have friends whose stomachs hide their genitalia, who can only have sex on their backs with their legs scissored together. They enjoy their sex life, but it certainly has reduced varity - one position that works. And they regularly fail to find the relevant parts and give up.
I've had the personal experience of having to hold a roll of fat out of the way with one friend I was working on, it was the only way there was any hope of reaching her genitals with my other hand, and then I could only just manage. She enjoyed herself, but I was limited in what I could do for her because of the logistical issues. And it was incredibly hard and tiring.
I've had a partner who wasn't hugely overweight but her size meant that penetration was sometimes nowhere near as deep as either of us would have liked. We couldn't get that close. That impacts on what can be achieved. That there are other things that can be done and ways to work around it, of course there are, and we had a great sex life. But there's no denying our options were reduced by the issue.
Friends of both genders who find that having a big backside or a large gut means that things they want to do they can't manage well. People who find that their lack of fitness combined with their weight means that if they can manage a more interesting position than normal, they don't have the stamina or ability to try for more than a few seconds.
I didn't throw the sex comment in as a vague afterthought, I talk to a lot of people and have had my share of first hand experience.