I simply can't comprehend any woman wanting me, so I completely miss all signals, no matter how unsubtle. Or I can't let them know I'd like to talk in more depth, or do more, because why would they want to, really?
You are certainly not the first, nor last, to experience this. I had a friend that had been trying to signal me for at least two months... and I missed them all. To this day I still can't figure out if it was me being very clueless or him just being very bad at it. (Unfortunately he knew that Drhoz and I were not monogamus and thought I would have sex with him because of that. I felt absolutely no desire towards him and would not have slept with him anyway.) Even though I have a husband that worships me, I still feels quite... weird... that anyone would find blobby old me desirable or even fuck-worthy.
The poll question asking who would let me see their breasts was like that. When a surprising number of women said in the poll they'd be willing for me to see their breasts, I was filled with quiet horror. On one hand, I like the idea. I like it because of my curiousity, the perve value, and because it shows a certain level of trust which means a lot to me. On the other hand, the thought of an almost cold, artificial flash done out of a sense of commitment, or a mammary-based "Look at my tits!" attack, actually leaves me cold and a rather uncomfortable.
These babies don't get shown to just any old guy, y'know. Otherwise I'd be walking around the house in the nude most of the time now - only the idea of my (soon to be ex) housemate seeing them gives me the wiggins. But I'm not going to flash you if it's going to send you to wigginsville. That would be mean.
There are a number of folks who have expressed an interest in talking to me in more depth about things... please do!
Well if someone would answer their email once in awhile!!
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The simple version is, there was a good chance they had chlamydia, so they went to the doctor, took the two pills to deal with it... but they still haven't told their ex nearly two months since they saw the doc. And it's been somewhere between six and eight months since the split.
Well that's just vile. Seriously vile.
The reason I'm not a counselor is because I care too much.
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Date: 2006-12-12 03:57 pm (UTC)You are certainly not the first, nor last, to experience this. I had a friend that had been trying to signal me for at least two months... and I missed them all. To this day I still can't figure out if it was me being very clueless or him just being very bad at it. (Unfortunately he knew that Drhoz and I were not monogamus and thought I would have sex with him because of that. I felt absolutely no desire towards him and would not have slept with him anyway.) Even though I have a husband that worships me, I still feels quite... weird... that anyone would find blobby old me desirable or even fuck-worthy.
The poll question asking who would let me see their breasts was like that. When a surprising number of women said in the poll they'd be willing for me to see their breasts, I was filled with quiet horror. On one hand, I like the idea. I like it because of my curiousity, the perve value, and because it shows a certain level of trust which means a lot to me. On the other hand, the thought of an almost cold, artificial flash done out of a sense of commitment, or a mammary-based "Look at my tits!" attack, actually leaves me cold and a rather uncomfortable.
These babies don't get shown to just any old guy, y'know. Otherwise I'd be walking around the house in the nude most of the time now - only the idea of my (soon to be ex) housemate seeing them gives me the wiggins. But I'm not going to flash you if it's going to send you to wigginsville. That would be mean.
There are a number of folks who have expressed an interest in talking to me in more depth about things... please do!
Well if someone would answer their email once in awhile!!
*****************
The simple version is, there was a good chance they had chlamydia, so they went to the doctor, took the two pills to deal with it... but they still haven't told their ex nearly two months since they saw the doc. And it's been somewhere between six and eight months since the split.
Well that's just vile. Seriously vile.
The reason I'm not a counselor is because I care too much.
Better stay out of teaching then.
*hugs*