I actually really like the idea in theory, but you know how I overthink things? Well...
-I'd be worried about not getting any/many 'yes' answers.
-I'd be worried about getting too many 'yes' answers.
-I'd be worried that I'd get lots of 'yes' answers, all anonymous.
-I'd be equally worried about lots of anonymous 'no' answers.
-I'd be worried that some people who answered 'yes' would want/expect me to follow through, and either me feeling pressured or them being hurt if they were people I couldn't be that close to.
-I'd be worried about what to say to people who said 'yes' that I desired. Even if it was clear nothing would happen, and we were both fine with it, what do I say to them?
-I can't help but wonder if someone would deliver a 'no' that would gut me completely, even though I don't expect anyone to want to sleep with me.
This is the whole 'would you show me your breasts?' situation, multiplied by a thousand. I've opened myself a lot, and people have been kind, but isn't that kind of pushing my luck?
That all said, I won't say no to the idea, but I think I would need to be talked into it. It goes deeper than me talking about stuff, my opinions, and my experiences. I've been working outside my comfort zone, but this is well outside it.
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Date: 2006-12-13 11:44 am (UTC)-I'd be worried about not getting any/many 'yes' answers.
-I'd be worried about getting too many 'yes' answers.
-I'd be worried that I'd get lots of 'yes' answers, all anonymous.
-I'd be equally worried about lots of anonymous 'no' answers.
-I'd be worried that some people who answered 'yes' would want/expect me to follow through, and either me feeling pressured or them being hurt if they were people I couldn't be that close to.
-I'd be worried about what to say to people who said 'yes' that I desired. Even if it was clear nothing would happen, and we were both fine with it, what do I say to them?
-I can't help but wonder if someone would deliver a 'no' that would gut me completely, even though I don't expect anyone to want to sleep with me.
This is the whole 'would you show me your breasts?' situation, multiplied by a thousand. I've opened myself a lot, and people have been kind, but isn't that kind of pushing my luck?
That all said, I won't say no to the idea, but I think I would need to be talked into it. It goes deeper than me talking about stuff, my opinions, and my experiences. I've been working outside my comfort zone, but this is well outside it.