"I want to sleep with you, if that's at all possible"
You know, I really like that wording. One of the things I was taught when learning massage was the importance of how to phrase a question. When doing full-body relaxation massage on a woman, it can include the breasts. In actuality you're dealing with muscle tissue beneath the breasts, but it's kind of hard to get to that without touching boob. Some women are comfortable with this, some are not.
When you reach the point where you can do the breasts/chest area, the way you ask is to say "Would you like me to include your breasts, or would you prefer I avoid the area?" By finishing on the 'no' option, you're actually giving the person permission to say no.
If you just say, "would you like me to include your breasts?" they don't have permission to say no, so it's harder for some folks to say it, even if agreeing would make them feel uncomfortable. Given that what you're doing is meant to relax them, the asking of the question in a way that allows them to say no without feeling pressured or stressed is fairly important.
I try to be aware of that any time I'm asking questions, even about minor matters.
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Date: 2006-12-13 09:48 pm (UTC)You know, I really like that wording. One of the things I was taught when learning massage was the importance of how to phrase a question. When doing full-body relaxation massage on a woman, it can include the breasts. In actuality you're dealing with muscle tissue beneath the breasts, but it's kind of hard to get to that without touching boob. Some women are comfortable with this, some are not.
When you reach the point where you can do the breasts/chest area, the way you ask is to say "Would you like me to include your breasts, or would you prefer I avoid the area?" By finishing on the 'no' option, you're actually giving the person permission to say no.
If you just say, "would you like me to include your breasts?" they don't have permission to say no, so it's harder for some folks to say it, even if agreeing would make them feel uncomfortable. Given that what you're doing is meant to relax them, the asking of the question in a way that allows them to say no without feeling pressured or stressed is fairly important.
I try to be aware of that any time I'm asking questions, even about minor matters.