One of the most common complaints I have heard from new mums (with partners) I have met is that the partner expects them to do everything they did before the baby, plus all the baby-raising stuff. One woman I used to talk to in all seriousness wrote on her blog 'I'd divorce the bastard, but I'm too tired to do it.' (I actually haven't heard from her in several months, so maybe she did do it in the end.)
Be prepared to run interference for your partner or friend. I hope Drhoz is paying attention to this. Members of both of our families are already trying to mold us (actually, mainly me) into their vision of housewife, and I already dread to think what is going to happen when we have babies.
The impression that I get from my mother and his mother is that we have some big generational baby-raising ideological gaps and I don't think it's going to turn out pretty if I have to fight these all on my lonesome.
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Date: 2008-11-02 03:06 am (UTC)Be prepared to run interference for your partner or friend.
I hope Drhoz is paying attention to this. Members of both of our families are already trying to mold us (actually, mainly me) into their vision of housewife, and I already dread to think what is going to happen when we have babies.
The impression that I get from my mother and his mother is that we have some big generational baby-raising ideological gaps and I don't think it's going to turn out pretty if I have to fight these all on my lonesome.