Polls/comments can be set so that only I can see all answers, but apart from not wanting to be hurt, I don't wish to hurt anyone's feelings.
Forgetting that Sharon is always welcome to say no to any prospective sexual partner and that's the end of that, I have an internal sense that I follow on how far I'm willing to go with an individual. It has little to do with what I actually want and can change over time.
With some folks I could not know them and be able to jump right into bed with them without a problem. With others, I've known, desired, and loved them deeply for decades, but I couldn't take things that far.
It's the same way I listen to my body about what food I should/shouldn't eat (in regards to the things I know I can eat). There are times when I can eat as much chocolate as I want, when it's a good thing and I am driven to have it. There are times when no matter how much I want the chocolate, I have an internal sense that I shouldn't have it, and I listen to that. I will go for weeks with little or no chocolate on this sense, even though I desperately want it.
Thanks to this sense, there is not one sexual partner of the eight I've had that I regret having slept with. For me that's really important, because my sexuality is a big part of who I am, and I give myself over to partners totally.
That said, if I went with what I want, rather than what I can have... There are thirty people of all shapes and sizes on my friends list that I would shag in a heartbeat.
Of course, this is all talking about full-on sex. Most people can, at the very least, get hugs and cuddles from me. Quite a few could get more than that, though again, how much depends on feel.
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Date: 2006-12-13 08:48 pm (UTC)Forgetting that Sharon is always welcome to say no to any prospective sexual partner and that's the end of that, I have an internal sense that I follow on how far I'm willing to go with an individual. It has little to do with what I actually want and can change over time.
With some folks I could not know them and be able to jump right into bed with them without a problem. With others, I've known, desired, and loved them deeply for decades, but I couldn't take things that far.
It's the same way I listen to my body about what food I should/shouldn't eat (in regards to the things I know I can eat). There are times when I can eat as much chocolate as I want, when it's a good thing and I am driven to have it. There are times when no matter how much I want the chocolate, I have an internal sense that I shouldn't have it, and I listen to that. I will go for weeks with little or no chocolate on this sense, even though I desperately want it.
Thanks to this sense, there is not one sexual partner of the eight I've had that I regret having slept with. For me that's really important, because my sexuality is a big part of who I am, and I give myself over to partners totally.
That said, if I went with what I want, rather than what I can have... There are thirty people of all shapes and sizes on my friends list that I would shag in a heartbeat.
Of course, this is all talking about full-on sex. Most people can, at the very least, get hugs and cuddles from me. Quite a few could get more than that, though again, how much depends on feel.