Beards and Sex

[dalekboy]

In the last 24 hours, it has been suggested that I do a poll about my facial hair and a poll about who wants to sleep with me.

Of course, the two women who said I look hotter without the beard are both overseas. I mean, seriously, what's the good of being hot to people who are too far off to stroke my naked cheek?

Or even my face? *wicked grin*

And the person wanting me to do a poll about who wants to sleep with me posted anonymously! Ok, I can get the anonymous thing, but still, if I got three people say yes, all anonymously, where does that leave me? Or worse still, what if the only person to put their name to it was Lameo? Brrrr...

Maybe I could combine them and do two polls, who wants to sleep with me with the beard/who wants to sleep with me without. *grin*

If I choose to care about my facial hair, does my vanity listen to the people who think I look better without it, or the people who like me with it? Kali commented that she thinks I look younger with the beard, which is interesting, as I think she's right. Are people put off by the beard because it's facial hair, or because of how I look with it?

Is it just me or is my life becoming more complex due to 100 Days? Is this a good thing or a bad one? Should I do a poll on what polls I should do?

Given the number of responses I've had to those two posts, would love to see what people think about any or all of this.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

See the problem I can see with posting a poll about wanting to sleep with you is that there will be people who want to sleep with you, but just blurting it out in a poll is just a bit embarrassing. Hence why I am posting this anonymously. *blush* What if you say "no! never! not even if you were the last person on earth and the future of the human race was at stake!"?? The embarishment!

(not the other anonymous person.)
(and certainly not lameo)

[drjon.livejournal.com]

I'm not the anonymous person either.

[http://users.livejournal.com/doctor_k_/]

I'm not, and nor is my wife.

[dalekboy.livejournal.com]

*very disappointed*

Oh... ok...

[dalekboy.livejournal.com]

Polls/comments can be set so that only I can see all answers, but apart from not wanting to be hurt, I don't wish to hurt anyone's feelings.

Forgetting that Sharon is always welcome to say no to any prospective sexual partner and that's the end of that, I have an internal sense that I follow on how far I'm willing to go with an individual. It has little to do with what I actually want and can change over time.

With some folks I could not know them and be able to jump right into bed with them without a problem. With others, I've known, desired, and loved them deeply for decades, but I couldn't take things that far.

It's the same way I listen to my body about what food I should/shouldn't eat (in regards to the things I know I can eat). There are times when I can eat as much chocolate as I want, when it's a good thing and I am driven to have it. There are times when no matter how much I want the chocolate, I have an internal sense that I shouldn't have it, and I listen to that. I will go for weeks with little or no chocolate on this sense, even though I desperately want it.

Thanks to this sense, there is not one sexual partner of the eight I've had that I regret having slept with. For me that's really important, because my sexuality is a big part of who I am, and I give myself over to partners totally.

That said, if I went with what I want, rather than what I can have... There are thirty people of all shapes and sizes on my friends list that I would shag in a heartbeat.

Of course, this is all talking about full-on sex. Most people can, at the very least, get hugs and cuddles from me. Quite a few could get more than that, though again, how much depends on feel.

[battblush.livejournal.com]

I would definitely opt in for a hug or a cuddle, especially WITH the beard.

I love beards. And goatees. Facial hair is way sexy.